The Mindful Man - Caspar talks about his new book

An Interview with a Mindful Man…

…with Caspar Walsh about his new book “The Mindful Man: Words from the Earth”, published in the June / July 2018 edition of Reconnect magazine.

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Thanks for taking the time to answer a few questions for us Caspar.

Where were you when you first had the idea to write the book?

I’d been given the book, Mindfulness and Surfing. Think I was reading it in the bath. It was the first time in a long while I’d held a book that looked and felt beautiful. I thought, ‘this is a publisher I could write for’.

The book isn’t a novel, it’s set up like a manual for the mind, with mindfulness exercises, and a travel through guide to feelings and emotions. What inspired you to present it that way?

I see it more as a manual to be human, how I dealt with an early life trauma and the ensuing madness that followed. For me, becoming truly whole is all about the relationship between mind, body and how we connect to the natural world. I walked, talked and meditated on what is important to me and broke that down into areas that I feel help us become human and whole.

It also contains a host of quotes, and prayers from luminaries down the ages. Which one is your favourite?

I spent days sourcing the quotes. They frame the ideas of the book. This one is a cracker: “In this here place, we flesh; flesh that weeps, laughs; flesh that dances on bare feet in grass. Love it. Love it hard. Beloved.” Toni Morrison, winner of The Nobel Prize for Literature.

If you could only offer one piece of wisdom from the whole book to our readers, that you are most proud of having written, what would it be, and why?

No pressure! To see myself as wise? Not sure about that. Maybe at times, in a curb tripping kind of way. How about this: They (books) can be keys to the door, for sure, but reading alone won’t walk you through the peaks and valleys of life. Books are tool kits, manuals for self-discovery and understanding. They are not the answer. You are.

It must have been quite an exercise to complete, who are you most grateful for supporting you on your journey, and what do you remember them doing that most motivated you when you felt at the lowest point?

Without a doubt, Amber, my loving and tenaciously patient partner. If I’d known it would be as challenging to write as it turned out, I’m doubtful I would have started. She encouraged me to rest, take my time and not buckle under the pressure of seemingly endless edits. To remember that my life as a writer is a small part of who I am and what I offer the world. To loosen and lighten up!

If you were to describe the book in one sentence what would you say?

Feels like a ‘this is what I did next’ after my memoir ‘Criminal’, how I made it through, made sense of the madness, found peace and did something meaningful and adventurous with my life. It’s about how I got back home.

Read more about Caspar’s new book: www.wordsfromtheearth.co.uk

Explorations from a Mentoring Day - July

July's Mentoring Day took us to the Dart valley for a swim.

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Despite the attempts to get directions from locals to our destination - 'Courgette Island' - (What? It's not on the OS map?!") there were no courgettes to be found when we got there.  Fortunately, it remains a secret spot and there were some explorations with the other than human realm around the theme of Home - in ourselves and through our connection to them. 

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Here is a list of distilled qualities that came from the exercise:

Connection
Wonder
Juicy
Inquisitive
Beautiful
Life giving
Adaptability
Consciousness
Focus
Acceptance
Peaceful

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We very much look forward to seeing some of you there at future mentoring days.

Rebecca Card

Boundaries are key to a healthy recovery and a happy life.

Caspar writes about the importance of personal boundaries in our work at Write to Freedom and in our wider lives.

The magic with W2F is in our ability to connect and hang out together, to be in our village, work together and at the same time be able to support our individual recovery and growth. The ease I feel and see others experiencing in our work is the result of many years of gentle, loving work, building the foundation stones of what we do and who we are. Key to this is creating a safe space or ‘container’. We don’t offer therapy as such but what we offer is therapeutic in many ways. So even in the hanging out by the river, duding around, swimming, talking, laughing, walking, there is always an awareness of the work we are offering, how we can help maintain a strong container and how people can feel safe and supported while still relaxing, learning and growing together. This is one of the key areas of skill and expertise our facilitators need to keep the good vibes flowing and the recovery growing as beautifully as it does.

We help heal many levels of trauma. This is a complex, steady process and is at the heart of our vision. We have ‘in house’ psychotherapists both on our residentials and in our ongoing support programme. Much of the trauma we work with connects to the crossing of boundaries at some point in our lives and the need to heal these wounds. Maintaining healthy, respectful boundaries is essential to keeping the balance between a tangible sense of safety and an ease in being and growing together. When W2F began we were a male only programme. In a lot of ways this simplified our focus, particularly as we were working with young men between 16 and 18 years of age. I had for some years been wanting to create a programme for addicts in recovery. Creating a village of different backgrounds, ages and gender. Having run several pilot residentials, we made the official transition to addiction recovery in 2016, a bold, exciting leap. This quickly led to an amazing flowering of our work in many positive, life changing ways for us all.

With the programme now mixed gender, 18 years plus, and individual trauma healing in the forefront of our minds and hearts, another key area for us all to take real care with is around the potential for intimate, sexual relationships to develop between those involved in our work. It’s not that we are looking to stop this happening, that’s outside our remit! It’s more about bringing awareness to the need for those of us in early recovery to be mindful of the impact of our attentions, intentions and behaviours on others in myriad ways. It’s also very much about how to develop an intimate relationship with ourselves before we reach out to connect romantically to another. Like the suggestion says, begin with taking care of a plant in the first year of recovery, then possibly a pet in year two and if we’re lucky maybe a special, intimate relationship in year three!

We ask everyone involved, staff and participants, to be aware of attaching too closely to any one person, or people. To stretch out of our comfort zones and see if we can find common ground with everyone we meet in W2F. To learn to track our old behaviours as we forge new ones. It’s all about developing a watchful, loving, inner parent in all we do. Exploring old patterns and feeling into whether the connections we have or are seeking with others is appropriate, safe, respectful and all importantly, reciprocated.

Having had a long history of not really understanding healthy boundaries (as a result of bad role modelling from those around me), it’s taken many years of gentle, loving focus to learn to contain myself in a healthy, loving way. To know when to express my thoughts and feelings and knowing when an attraction is mutual. W2F offers an opportunity to explore these new ways of being and seeing ourselves in a professional, safe and gentle way. It isn’t so much as doing it right or wrong but in finding support and feedback along the way to help us each (staff and participants alike) find out who we truly are, what we want from life and what we can bring to the world. Healthy boundaries are essential to help nurture self-esteem, self-love and above all a freedom to be who we are, who we were born to be. Its all about our individual and collective, right to freedom.

Caspar Walsh

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May Mentoring Day - a photo blog

Gathering for one of our monthly Mentoring Days on a gorgeous sunny May weekend in the magical beauty of the Dart Valley, mutual support and shared friendship.

My Residential

I am a recovering alcoholic and addict. I have been sober for two years and four months. I suffer from depression and anxiety. I lost my husband exactly two years ago, when he took his own life. I found the fellowship, then I was introduced to Write to Freedom by a very special lady, Ali.  Write to Freedom isn’t about the 12-step program but the spiritual awareness or awakening in nature, to love and appreciate the beautiful things around. Things I had hated before. I too was in a very dark place. I was intrigued about what would happen on the residential, I asked questions, but it was all very mysterious, which obviously intrigued me more… It was far beyond my wildest dreams. To have gone on a spiritual journey, an awakening inside my heart.

It was a time to let go and breathe again. To find peace and gratitude in a magical experience up on the moors. At dusk, there I was looking up at the sky and saying the words I needed to find release and there was the moon above me! Incredible, magical and beautiful (I instantly thought of my husband Lyle). The power of a spiritual moment shared with friends I had met two days earlier and friends I had known only for a year… they were spiritual beings guiding me to my release of pain and suffering. I thank you all for your warmth, encouragement, love and support. You let me trust in you and have faith in you and I am truly happy that it was a safe place to let go and cry… just a little… more is yet to come.

I am stronger now than ever before and it’s OK to be where I am because there’s no rules to this. I think it’s my time to do this.

I left with gratitude and fulfilment, knowing of a beautiful place that I can come back to for future experiences and for learning and growth. The amazing tribe of Write to Freedom have guided me on another step into my journey that has given me purpose and hope again.

I am grateful that you had the time and compassion to share your skills and knowledge to a stranger like me and to have left as a friend and tribal warrior.

I gave you my insecurities and uncertainty and left being a part of a tribe, a tribe of love and compassion. In the fellowship I had to surrender my will and my life to the care of God and have found peace and spiritual awareness. I surrendered my walls and nervousness and found another journey of self-discovery and spiritual connection through nature and it’s been the most awakening journey I could have ever taken.

- Emma
Recovery Tribes Residential, March 2018

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Mentoring Days - a photo blog

Photos from our February and March Mentoring Days on a wintery and snowy Dartmoor.

New Administrator

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Hello! I'm Jo, the new administrator for Write to Freedom - I joined the team in December.

I work behind the scenes helping the organisation run smoothly and I'm likely to be the one that answers your emails if you get in touch with us, and other tasks like keeping the website fresh and up to date, writing occasional tweets, managing systems and basic accounts.

I come to this role with a lot of previous experience in supporting the running of small organisations working for positive change. I have a deep love for the outdoors and wild places, and believe in the significance of connection to nature for everyone. It is one of the aspects of Write to Freedom that drew me to join the team, and something that I'm really glad to be supporting.

I have a long love of and heart connection to Dartmoor, having previously lived in south Devon for 15 years – always somewhere close to the river Dart and the last few years on the edges of the open moor. Dartmoor, and especially the wild Dart Valley remains one of my favourite places in the world - I find such a magical energy there, and the continual flow of the river so connecting.

I left Devon 3 years ago to seek some further afield adventures, beginning with a nomadic year and a half that led me to various stunning places around the world, and eventually to Greece, where I now spend a lot of my time. The main work in my life at the moment is as a long term volunteer, working with the refugee community. This part time role with Write to Freedom supports me practically to be able to continue this.

I came here just over 2 years ago, at a time when the arrivals of mainly Syrian refugees by boat from Turkey was at its height. I went to the island of Lesvos to help run a kitchen tent in an unofficial camp there, where we served up to 6000 meals a day as people passed through on their journey into mainland Europe. I expected to stay in Greece for a couple of months, but connecting to the situation very personally, and the massive ongoing need I experienced, I decided to move to Athens to be part of starting a longer term and more sustainable grassroots project. A collective of us set up the Khora Community Centre, offering vital services and solidarity to some of the thousands of people stuck here.

It is one of the most amazing things I have ever been part of – I am constantly challenged, inspired, exhausted and heart-opened by what I experience here. I write occasionally on my blog about my experiences here and the wider context of Athens. Devon always pulls me back every few months for a spell of nature resourcing, and I'm looking forward to attending my first Write to Freedom residential this spring.